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Build love maps. The principle of building love maps is simply this: knowing the little things about your partner’s life creates a strong foundation for your friendship and intimacy. Emotionally intelligent couples are intimately familiar with each other’s worlds; this is called having a richly detailed "love map" (that part of your brain where you store all the relevant information about your partner’s life) In other words, couples who build love maps have made plenty of cognitive room in their minds for their relationship. Each partner remembers the major events in each other partner's history, and keeps updating this information as the facts and feelings of their spouse’s world change. Aim to know each other’s goals in life, each other’s worries, each other’s hopes and dreams.

2See the best in your love. A survey of 470 studies on compatibility revealed that the one thing many long-lasting relationships have in common is "positive illusions", which allow the people in the relationship to see each other in a positive light

.[2] Every day, look for the best in your partner and remind yourself why you are with this wonderful person.
3Avoid the Four Horsemen. Certain kinds of negativity, if allowed to run rampant, are so lethal to a relationship that they are sometimes called the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: criticism, contempt (condescension), defensiveness, and stonewalling. After observing a couple for only a few hours, scientists are able to predict with over 94% accuracy whether they will stay together or get divorced if these negative behaviors are NOT changed. 

[3] If you find yourself using any of these negative approaches toward your partner, decide to do something about it before it erodes your love.

4Practice compassion every day. Couples who exercise compassionate love have happier marriages

.[5] Look for opportunities to practice random acts of kindness toward your partner. Make it a goal to surprise your partner with a small gesture once a day. It doesn't have to be complicated or cost a dime; the time you take to send a text or leave a little note to tell them how special they are can mean more than expensive gifts. Keep it honest, keep it kind, and make it about them and you can't go wrong.
5Share a 6-second kiss. The six-second kiss is one simple and fun activity to should incorporate into your everyday moments of transition as a couple. 

[6] Described as “long enough to feel romantic,” the six-second kiss serves as a temporary oasis within a busy day (for example, going to or from work). Greeting your partner with affection communicates their importance to you while reminding them of the good feelings you share when you’re in each other’s company.

6Let go of the "fantasy bond". This is an illusion of connection that many people cling to in relationships.[7] Over time, people in long-term relationships tend to fall into a rut where genuine connection is replaced by a more selfish view of what each person can get out of the relationship. Focus instead on what you can give.
7Maintain a 5:1 ratio. During conflict discussion, the ratio of positive to negative interactions in stable, healthy relationships is 5:1.[8]

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Maintain this ratio of positivity during an argument by avoiding the following three statements completely: you never, you always. Moreover, avoid saying anything insulting or superior.
Talk to your partner like an equal. Use “I” statements like “I would appreciate it if we…” instead of “you” statements like “You need to…” That way, the problem becomes “our problem,” not “your problem.”
8Accept perpetual problems. Sixty nine percent of the time couples fight about perpetual issues in the relationship, the issues never get resolved.

[10] That’s okay! What matters is not solving these problems, but the effect created when they are discussed. The goal in your relationship when discussing these types of problems should be to establish dialogue that communicates acceptance of your partner, while demonstrating humor and affection. Ultimately, what does count is being able to actively cope with the unresolvable problem rather than treating it as a condition of gridlock. Gridlocked conflict discussions only lead to painful exchanges or icy silence, and almost always involve the Four Horsemen (see above).

9Use softened startups. A "softened startup" involves the manner in which a partner raises an issue in the first three minutes of the conversation; it is crucial to resolving relationship conflicts.[11]

[12] If most of your arguments start softly, your relationship is far more likely to be stable and happy. Complain but don’t blame. No matter how "at fault” you feel that your partner is, approaching them with criticisms and accusations is not productive.
Make statements that start with "I" instead of "You." When you start sentences with "I" you are less likely to seem (or be!) critical. Blame immediately puts your partner into a defensive position, while I statements make it clear that you are discussing the impact on your feelings instead.
10Turn towards. Turning towards means actively turning to your partner and replying to their small little bids for emotional connection that they make throughout the day.[13]

[14] This means being interested in what they are saying or doing and following up by responding to them in a way that shows you are listening.

11Don't underestimate the sliding door moments. Sliding door moments are the seemingly inconsequential everyday moments filled with the words we haphazardly throw back and forth at each other, accompanied by little evanescent pains, frustrations, joys, and laughter, flying through our minds and our hearts, that make or break the most important relationships in our lives. 

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